Cross the Line Advice

April 17, 2012 10:55 pm

Anonymous: So two years ago I met a boy on the internet and after a while i started falling for him. First i was like "i don't want to break our friendship etc" but ok, i told him after a while. luckily, he liked me too. So we made plans to meet in real. But a few days before we would meet he dished me, he wouldn't meet anymore. i was heartbroken. now, a year later, i still think about him, i miss him. should i tell him? it's not that we 're on speaking terms or something..

When someone is a huge part of your life and they’re suddenly gone, you’re bound to miss them for a long time. It’s normal. But sometimes it’s not the best idea to reconnect. Perhaps send him one message, and if he doesn’t respond, do your best to let it go. You’ll be fine c:

~Britt

April 17, 2012 10:54 pm

Anonymous: I went to a party&got drunk&ended up having sex with 2 guys for my 1st time. My bestfriend wasnt a virgin&kept telling me that it was no big deal if i did it sex at the party&she would be looking after me anyway. She didnt. The 2nd guy didn't wear a condom&i nearly fell pregnant. People were touching me&taking photos&videos. I started cutting after then it got worse. Im seeing a therapist but still feel not right&especially when im alone. I cant tell anyone though. It'll hurt them. What do i do?

If you’re seeing a therapist, talk to him or her about everything you’re feeling. That’s really what’s best for you. They’ll be able to give you all the help you need c:

~Britt

April 17, 2012 10:53 pm

Anonymous: Hi.. Umm.. I believe i could have depression.. I have bad suicidal thoughts and they are getting worse.. I self harm and have an eating disorder.. And to add to that i have a "boyfriend" who is threating my life and im scared i really am.. I really dont know what to do..

Hello, dear. I’ll start by saying that suicide is never the answer.

You seem to be referring to a lot of very tough ordeals, so I think it’s best if you talk to a trusted adult (parent, family member, adult friend, teacher, guidance counselor, therapist, etc.) about what you’re feeling and what’s going on. Do not be afraid to speak to this person. I’m sure if you tell them everything you’re dealing with, they’ll help you in any way possible.

Good luck, dear. And remember that your life is worthy of being lived, and you are worthy of life.

~Britt

April 17, 2012 10:50 pm

Anonymous: I really really like this kid, but he likes someone else, and he told me so. He likes one of my best friends who told me she thinks he's so strange, and that she'd never go out with him. I obviously won't tell him that; it's rude. I want him to give me a chance, but he won't. I'm the last person guys think about, but I really do like him, and I don't know what to do...

Perhaps it’s best if you just wait it out, and he loses interest in the girl, then maybe he will like you. Past that, there’s really not much else to do. You can’t make someone return feelings, as I said in the last question. Good luck!

~Britt

April 17, 2012 10:49 pm

Anonymous: There's this boy that Ive been going to school with for 7 years. Since the second week of school, I've had a crush on him. He's one of the few people that has seen me cry and has tried to make me feel better. I've seen him cry, and we're pretty close. After about 2 years of knowing/liking him, I told him. He didn't return the feelings. He tells me about girls that he likes, and it breaks my heart. I want him to be happy, but I also want him to return my feelings.

You can’t force someone to return feelings, you know? It’s really hard—believe me, I know. I’ve been through something like this before. But you have to try your best to move on.

~Britt

April 2, 2012 11:41 pm

Hello Everybody,

I am sorry to say that I am leaving for good. This has too many triggers for me, and I can’t help you guys if I can’t help myself first. Which is why after spring break, I’m going to sit down with my parents and tell them everything. If you need need to talk to me, I am always here for you all.

—Meghan

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March 31, 2012 6:35 pm

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March 29, 2012 3:15 pm

Anonymous: 1- So I've been talking with this one boy for quite some time now, our relationship has really progressed over the year. We never used to talk, but when we started, it was really deep personal stuff about each other. Secrets, insecurities, things we'd never ever say to other people. He said he was always there for me, and I said the same to him. Lately though, we don't really text or talk that much about these things. Our texts are kind of dull conversations.

March 29, 2012 3:15 pm

Anonymous: 2- ts are kind of dull conversations. I feel like he's not completely there. I understand he could be stressed and really busy, but it's just stuck in my mind he's grown tired of me and he's done caring about me and etc. I haven't had anyone to talk to about anything for so long. I really want to vent to him about everything, but he never really replies to my texts anymore, and I don't know if he wants to be there for me anymore.

March 29, 2012 3:15 pm

Anonymous: 3- A part of me knows this judgement is most likely just me being insecure. He's done on several occasions, prove that I am significant to him. I just don't want to be a bother to him. I know he doesn't like, like me. He has a girlfriend. That's not what his intentions are. I like him, but I care about him too much to even try to get involved more than we are. Sorry this is so long.

It’s really scary how accurate this description is of my life, so I know how you feel. Truly. This past month has been rough on me without my best guy friend. What I found out was that he’s been really down in the dumps about a lot of stuff, and just hasn’t been motivated to talk to anyone. Perhaps this is what your guy friend is going through?

If he is growing out of you, then, as hard as it may be, you may have to let it happen. I know how tough it is to let someone go after so long and after being attached and dependent on them. It’s so hard. But you have to do a bit of “spring cleaning,” as they say, and make out with the old and in with the new. You’re making room for new people, so to speak.

Good luck!

~Britt

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